Jokes never on me

When my husband and I first became an official couple and started hanging out with others we very quickly established a rule. We don’t have a huge list of numbered rules that we follow but we do vocally talk about them. One of the first rules I remember setting was that we are on the same page and the same team at all times. This especially includes jokes, we never make each other the punch line of a joke!

We’ve all been at those gatherings where a couple clearly are disagreeing about the new curtains or someone didn’t sleep because of snoring. While it usually starts light hearted and funny it can also be uncomfortable to others in the room. But even worse, it breaks down the relationship.

Someone once said sisters know exactly where to hit the hardest on each other. I full heartedly believe this to be true with spouses also. He has given me the opportunity to shoulder his fears and worries, his doubts and self struggles, his strikeouts and his clearly off the page missed pitches at work. I know what he is self conscious about and how hard he works on things that come easily to others. But this is an opportunity he has given me. If I take it for granted and make fun of him about something so little, it is so easy for him to start guarding himself from me. Instead, I should be the one guarding him! He and I are on the same team.

Don’t get me wrong, we disagree from time to time! We discuss in private and when we make a decision, we move forward as a team. Luckily, we have never come across something that we couldn’t talk through and come to a conclusion together as a team.

Those little digs can be where it all starts. The Mr and I decided a long time ago to refuse to allow it to start there. The joke is never at the expense of my best friend!

I look forward to being old and grey with my best friend.